A little less than a month ago, a wonderful blog called Where I Stand brought up a thought-provoking point in one of their posts. In Unrealistic Goals, the blogger stated her goals from the past that were just about impossible. Then she wrote out new ones. Comparing the two was helpful not only for her but also for all of the blog’s readers.
Every since reading this post, I have been meaning to write a similar one. Today, the time finally seemed right. Before I start, however, one must understand that I do not think people should limit their dreams. Many of my goals still are farfetched and improbable. However, they keep me fighting for recovery and hope. There is a difference between large goals that keep you moving forward and unrealistic goals that pressure you to be perfect while they beat you up for making mistakes. Knowing the difference between the two is difficult but important.
Some Unrealistic Goals from the Past:
- Never have anything less than a 4.0 in every level of schooling.
- Be a famous movie actress.
- Die saving the life of someone else.
- Have a perfect ACT and SAT score.
- Be liked by everyone in the world.
- Lose lots of weight in a short period of time without getting sick.
- Be a teacher overseas for years.
- Marry into a royal family and become a princess.
- Rescue numerous people from some dangerous person or thing.
- Never do anything wrong or mess up at all.
Some of those dreams still haunt me. However, I have come to see myself and the world in a more realistic light while still hoping to do great things. Instead of giving up on my goals, I am modifying them.
Some Hopeful Goals from the Present:
- Do my best in school and hopefully graduate with Summa Cum Laude.
- Continue acting at school and other theaters as well as perhaps a movie in the future.
- Work to save the lives of others by speaking honestly about suicide, eating disorders, and mental illness.
- Learn facts from school and observing the world.
- Try to find good in everyone who I meet and treat them with respect.
- Discover how to eat normally and treat my body kindly.
- Study abroad.
- Act with kindness and dignity like a princess.
- Help people find the resources to be rescued from mental illness and hopelessness.
- Learn from my mistakes.