Yesterday, a source that I have been writing for requested me to provide material on some very raunchy and explicit themes. Nauseousness filled me as I read their themes. There was no way that I could research this information much less write material on it.
So, I responded with an apology but firm refusal before offering to write other articles instead of those. Doing this went against my fear of conflict and longing to be a people pleaser. However, the choice allowed me to exhibit strength in myself and my morals.
Compromise is often a good thing. We need to learn to work with others, or else nothing will ever be accomplished. We are taught from a young age to find a middle ground and work together.
Yet, there are times when we simply need to say “No” and stand firm in our choice. When someone is trying to hurt us or someone else, when our values are being deeply challenged, when we need to take care of ourselves – these are all some of the instances when refusal to compromise can be a good thing.
Recently, I have needed to use this coping skill in many instances. In fact, it is one that I have struggled with but also employed at numerous points in my life. Standing up for others when people are talking behind their back, not swearing even when peers pressure me to, and guarding the images that I put into my mind are a few of the recent examples from my life of refusal to compromise.
This still makes me feel super guilty. Hearing from the people that I said “No” to terrifies me. Yet, I know that my choice was right and that it came from a place of recovery.
- Stand Up Against Injustice Every Time by Op-Ed Daily
- Stop Telling Me What to Do! by Laura’s Random Thoughts
- On Individuality by thundergodblog