Caring for others is an important part of being a support person. To love your family member or friend who is suffering, you need to practice empathy and kindness. Show that you care about the well-being of your loved one.
However, worry can sometimes set in and cause guilt, stress, or the desire to control. Try as hard as you might, you cannot heal your loved one. He or she must take the steps forward in order to get into a better spot in life.
Thus, there are times when you need to hear the message of this little girl. The only life that you have power over is your own. Yes, you can be help to others and aid them in their struggles and joys. Still, your role is one of a supporter. That might mean that you encourage, remind, hold accountable, enforce, mourn with, or celebrate. Do not put the pressure on yourself to change your loved one’s whole life though.
All you can do is worry about yourself sometimes. I might be able to help others, but my efforts will only work as much as they will allow me to help. Before stressing over the hardships of another person, I need to remind myself that I cannot be their super hero. All I can be is myself, and hopefully that will be of some help to them. Until then, I need to pay attention to (or worry about) putting my life back into order.