Self-harm is a difficult topic to discuss. On one hand, you do not want to trigger other people which might result in them hurting themselves. However, staying quiet about it can cause you to harm yourself even more.
Lately, SIB has not been as difficult for me. Still, the urges will rear up at times. Here are some helpful quotes for understanding and suffering through this unhealthy coping skill.
- “I look at my scars and see something else: a girl who was trying to cope with something horrible that she should never have had to live through at all. My scars show pain and suffering, but they also show my will to survive. They’re part of my history that’ll always be there.” – author Cheryl Rainfield in Scars
- “I may not be in control of anything else, but I am in control of my body.” – singer Karen Carpenter
- “She can paint a pretty picture but this story has a twist. The paintbrush is a razor and the canvas is her wrist.” – former army officer, journalist, and author Amy Efaw in After
- “Hush little baby, Dont you cry, Dont cut your arms, Dont say goodbye. Put down that razor, Put down that light, It maybe hard but, You’ll win this fight.” – former legal personal and author Emily Giffin
- “We have all made attempts to take our lives, or to tell without words, some with a knife or a razor dividing the flesh, making the invisible somehow visible… making themselves, and all they’ve been through, disappear.” – pianist Linda Katherine Cutting in Memory Slips: A Memoir of Music and Healing
- “It’s also, I think, really connected to the fact that you almost feel, like, silent, you have no voice, you’re mute, there’s just no, you’ve got no option. Even if you could express yourself nobody would listen anyway. Things that go on inside you, there’s no other way to get rid of them.” – muscian Richey Edwards
- “Throughout it all, you are still, always, you: beautiful and bruised, known and unknowable.” – book publisher and author Leila Sales in This Song Will Save Your Life
- “Never feel this bad again. Never come back to this place, where only a knife will do. Live a gentle and kind life. Don’t do things that make you want to hurt yourself.” – columnist and author Caitlin Moran
- “Cutting myself was something beyond despair, something very extreme. It’s about trying to get to something. The physical act is a metaphor of trying to access something that is frozen. Something between who you were and since the depression who you’ve moved to and there’s this thick layer of ice and you can’t get to yourself.” – author and lecturer Nick Johnston in A Head Full of Blue
- “these are the screams within/these these are the life streams bleeding from skin” – author and poet Patrick Jones in “Eloquence in the Screaming”