Loneliness is one of the worst feelings in the world. It brings hopelessness, misery, depression, and lack of motivation.
Lately, this sense of being lost without anyone has been difficult. From everything that I have read, this is typical of Aspergers. Just because I know about part of the cause of my loneliness does not make it any easier.
Since being single has been a huge part of my current sense of sorrow, I decided to look at the wonderful parts of not being in a romantic relationship. Please add any others that you think of in the comments.
977. Traveling and moving – I can choose to travel or even move to another city, state, or country without worrying about bringing someone else with me. That might sound selfish, but it is honestly a relief.
978. More time for other friends – There is not one person that you need to continually clear your schedule for or count as the first priority.
979. Freedom – Many of the items on this list stem from this. When you are single, you are more free to do what you wish and follow your dreams.
980. No fear of breaking up – No one can break up with you if he isn’t already dating you! 🙂
981. Introvert time – If I want to simply spend time curled up in my room with a good book, there is no one waiting for me and feeling annoyed by my actions.
982. Building up friendships – People of both genders can be my friends instead of me focusing on finding the right person or making that person happy. Instead, this is a time to love each person for who they are instead of what they could be for me romantically.
983. Different priorities – Right now, my priorities center around my faith, school, friends, health, and work. Having a boyfriend or husband or (goodness) family would bring about another whole set of worries and goals.
984. Open options – Admitting this fills me with guilt. However, not being bound to one person is rather nice. I am not a flirt (how do people do that, anyway?) but do like feeling like I have possibilities instead of being stuck.
985. Less pressuring to change – This time of life consists of still discovering oneself. Thus, having pressure to be a certain way (wearing more makeup, seeing scarier movies, etc) would take away from learning more about where my path in life is leading.
986. Learning to love myself – I hate this. If someone cared about me, I would feel more lovable. That, however, would defeat the purpose of learning to respect myself alone.
987. Leaning into my faith – Putting my trust in God instead of a person is hard as is believing that He is enough for me. Those lessons are harder to learn in a relationship.
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