How often do you lie? Much research indicates that people do it many times a day. Why? There are multiple reasoning including pleasing others, getting out of trouble, gaining admiration, or harming an enemy.
Most people agree that lies are not morally acceptable for the most part. However, we disagree about when fibs are fine or even good. Should you tell someone if she looks bad with that color hair? If a coworker does not get in trouble with the nasty boss, is it ok for you to say that you have no idea who made the mistake? What about lying to save your life or someone else’s? Is that the only time that deception is acceptable?
Today, one of the cooks challenged me to go without lying. It turned out to be more difficult than I thought. However, people with Aspergers and autism tend to struggle with lying more than others. In fact, I needed to learn how to lie or at least not tell the full truth to fit in socially. Saying what was really on my mind was far too strange for others.
Anyway, being honest was a bit frightening at times but refreshing. Of course, my coworkers asked silly questions like “Who is cooler?” Questions like that are not the purpose of telling the truth. Being open and not deceiving others (or even yourself) allows a sense of freedom and a release of guilt.
Although there might be some situations were lying is acceptable, being honest is certainly what I prefer. Maybe there are times when you must edit yourself, but that can still be done in a truthful way. I encourage you to try the exercise of not lying for a whole day. You might find it eyeopening as well as amusing.
- Social Honesty by Let Me Recommend…
- Honesty: The Gift that Truly Keeps on Giving by Tim Baldwin
- Honestly, Honesty is a Good Thing by A Satisfactory Sneeze