Perhaps I am overly sensitive. Correct that statement: I am overly sensitive. However, there are times when people laugh and joke about subjects that make me cringe.
Normally, I just look away (or move away, if I can) and ignore them. Inside, part of me is screaming to speak up and say, “That isn’t funny!”
We all have sore spots that we don’t want people to poke fun at, even if they mean no harm. Finding out when to brush off the thoughtless joking of another person and when to ask that person to stop is difficult. I usually err on the side of pretending I am OK with the laughter until I want to cry. That certainly is not healthy.
Instead, I want to find a balance of standing up for what I am comfortable with and letting other people be themselves. Taking the person telling the joke, the setting, the harshness of the joke, and the intent into consideration is important. Some people will be funny in a cruel way while others simply want to make friends smile. There is so much to analyze in each situation.
Then there are certain topics that I will never think are funny: suicide, eating disorders, rape, etc. Also, if someone makes fun of me or mistakes that I make, I probably won’t find the humor in that either. Sorry, but unless I am laughing at myself, I don’t really want fingers pointing and people snickering about me.
Being funny is a wonderful gift that some people have. However, it can easily be misused to hurt others. Please be careful with humor. It can both bring people closer and tear them apart.