Erasing Bitterness

Mountains

Mountains in the distance

If I could erase one emotion completely from my life, I would eliminate bitterness.

Anger frightens me. When someone annoys me, I bite my tongue and inwardly scream until I have no voice. If a person hurts me, I fake a smile and brush off a few tears as a cauldron of fury bubbles inside.

But I struggle to confront or actually deal with the anger. Complain to others? Perhaps. Face my own anger? Never.

That is when the bitterness begins to grow.

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Fun Ways to Dispel Anger

So often, people are afraid to be angry. I love how this therapy group dealt with the emotion. Too bad I cannot do it alone because it would be a great coping skill!

Personality

If any of you have ever had group therapy, you will know what I mean when I say that every session has an atmosphere. You can walk into the room and instantly feel relaxed and open or, as it felt this week, you can feel the tension and sadness and want to walk straight back out again.

I don’t know why it seems to happen that the whole group feels one underlying emotion at the same time. Do moods become cyclical? Does the strongest personality in the room influence the others? Is it the weather? Whatever, this week our group was angry, sad, tired and and lacking in motivation to want to change.

But our therapists are amazing and they like a challenge. Picking up on the ange6e22bce2e1267b72615bccebb2ee0807r and knowing that we weren’t going to get anywhere in a session full of so much negativity, our female therapist said…

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Working in Customer Service with Aspergers

Tea and teapot

Some tea that I was served in Oxford

Working in customer service can be difficult for anyone. However, having aspergers or autism adds to this challenge. For a year now, I have worked as a hostess in a restaurant. This job has taught me a great deal and helped me to grow. One of the biggest lessons was how my aspergian brain affects my work, especially when dealing with customers.

Before I go any further, I want to make it clear that this is my own experience. There are people with aspergers who have never experienced these difficulties and those who had more troubles that I did not mention. Despite those differences, this post will hopefully resonate with people on the autism spectrum. My goal with this post is to bring hope, humor, and camaraderie to fellow aspies as well as show people without aspergers a glimpse of what an average day at work is for those on the spectrum.

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