Three Positive Things to Say to Those Who are Suffering ~ Power Punch!

Wow, these are great things to say to anyone in pain of any kind. I want to use these more often in my life when I meet others. We could all do to say and hear these more often.

Eyes Wide Open

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A long time ago, someone shared with me that one of the most loving things we can do for others is to tell them what we need. It gives others the same opportunity to show grace and love and care that we ourselves have when they do the same for us. If we withhold, we rob others of that gift. And being able to give grace and help others in time of need is truly just that; a Gift.

So that’s what my last few essays have been about here on my little blog.

But make no mistake: I am not only talking about things that I have concluded that I need for myself. I truly believe this applies to so many people out there in the world ~ not just those who might struggle with an invisible illness, like my Fibromyalgia. There may be some deep and dark grief…

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Ten Things Not to Say to Someone Who Self-Harms

Self-hate and self-harm

When we don’t know who to hate, we hate ourselves. – Chuck Pahlahniuk

For centuries, people have used self-harm to cope with life or discipline themselves. From religious ascetics to depressed teenagers, SIB (self-injurious behavior) can be found in all cultures and eras. Some societies have embraced it while others criticize it. Currently, most people lack awareness and even empathy for this symptom of mental illness.

I am not going to debate what drives every form of self-harm and the validity behind those motives. There are people who believe one can self-harm for good reasons. However, any form of inflicting pain on oneself (outside of for some extreme purpose) is problematic. Yes, that is very controversial and black-and-white. Yet, I have seldom, if ever, seen an exception to this.

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Fairy Tales – Dangerous or Inspiring

Fairy Tales - Dangerous or Inspiring

Fairy Tales – Dangerous or Inspiring

Growing up, I loved to read fairy tales.  Being just like a princess became an aspiration of mine.  If only I could be as sweet, beautiful, loved, and good – then I would be perfect.

Not only did I be lovely on the inside, my exterior would follow suit.  After all, bad guys look ugly or at least less attractive than the heroine.  To be a true princess, one needed to be so beautiful and thin that eligible young men would fall in love at first sight.  Just to be on the safe side, I hoped that several guys would court me.  That way, if one boy turned out to be rude or unkind, I would have another option.

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