Ten Things Not to Say to Someone with Aspergers
Whenever I explain that have Aspergers to someone, they look at me with surprise. “Really? But you seem so normal,” most people remark. All I can do is smile awkwardly and mumble something that thanks them for the compliment. However, that “compliment” really feels like a slap in the face. Anyone who did not watch me grow up missed the anguishing years of never fitting in, being bullied by friends, and not knowing how to do simple tasks. Just because I appear normal now does not mean that Aspergers did not affect my life and continues to daily.
Autism awareness has increased in recent years. Because of this, people are much more understanding and ask less unhelpful questions. However, misinformation and stereotypes still continue. Some of the comments that people say to me about my Aspergers or about the disorder in general are extremely rude, hurtful, and bewildering. This stems from lack of education, usually, and not ill intent.
Thus, I decided to make up a list of ten of the main things you should not say to someone with Aspergers. These are comments that I have heard and had to answer. Please know that you are not a bad person if you ever said any of these things. Like mentioned above, most of these comments come from misinformation or lack of knowledge. Some of these comments even come from good intentions but end up hurting your friend or family member with Aspergers.