Coping Skills: #76. Get Another Opinion

“Your weight is only part of your overall health,” my doctor comforted yesterday morning when I told her that my dietitian worried about my weight gain. “It is not much at all. Plus, your vital signs and overall health have never been so good. This can be difficult, but please try not to dwell only on the number.”

Hearing my doctor say this did not erase my hatred of my body. However, her response was helpful after feeling extremely fat and ugly. Perhaps my body is more healthy at this weight even if I feel huge. After all, my goal range with my dietitian was on the low end of the BMI range for my height. That is not the point, however. What I discovered yesterday was the importance of getting a second opinion.

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Debating in a Loving Way

Often when I listen to people argue or rant, I wonder if it is possible to state your opinions in a loving but firm way. Why is it that we seem to be our worst selves when we talk about controversial issues with those who disagree?

Despite how hurtful debating can be, there is a way to do it without inflicting harm. In fact, you can disagree with someone but both walk away wiser and happier because of the conversation. However, before you can debate in this manner, you need to know what not to do. This video shows some mistakes that we often make when arguing with others.

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