I was able to go to Shanghai Disneyland which was wonderful.
Knowing limits is good. I need to remember that I do not have the superpower of speed to get ready for the day in five minutes. Nor can anyone read minds. We cannot fly, breathe under water, live without food or water, etc. Limits can be helpful.
However, they can also be a hinder. So many times, I have let limits on myself – whether inflicted by me or others – that have hurt me. There were things that I was and wasn’t, limits set and dreams shattered.
This past year has shown me that I am more than my limitations. I need to stop living bound to my past or my struggles.
After arriving back in the USA a few days ago, I’ve been busy cleaning out all of my old boxes. Although I just moved back from China, my goal is to move abroad again for my Master’s Degree soon. Thus, all of the clutter in my old room and closet needed to leave.
As I pulled out old boxes and rummaged through dusty drawers, glimpses of the past kept appearing.
My fingers were stained pink and blue from oil pastel paintings made in residential treatment for my eating disorder. Babies surrounded by darkness, blood-red monsters devouring me, trees half blossoming and half diseased – images of despair and hope mixed with every color.
Often, this world feels scary and unsafe. I hide in the car from strangers passing by with shopping carts or struggling to slow my drumming heart as a man walks past and looks at me. Sometimes, life feels like a game of hide-and-seek or tag where you are constantly trying to get away from someone or something.
Thus, creating a safe space (or several) is very important. These can come in many forms in many places and even be just in your imagination. However, they should help you to feel secure and peaceful.
Being alone can teach you about yourself and others.
“Two is a pair. Three is a crowd.”
That saying might not be true, but I have certainly experienced it at times. Children pair up, having a best friend and sometimes even a second best friend. Girls giggling with others while passing me by, being picked last for a team, roommates making plans while I watched – being alone has been an important part of my life.
When we discuss motivation, we usually express hurrying towards something that we desire. Maybe money motivates you. Perhaps it is fear or friendship. Security, pleasure, thrill, religion, passion…the list continues on endlessly.
However, most people think that more rewards will urge people to work harder. Strangely enough, that is not always the case. This fascinating video shows that.
Last night, my family went to see Night at the Museum 3. Seeing a film with my parents and little brother is a rare treat, so we ended up having a lovely time. Hearing my mother and Mario giggling is by far the best part.
Seeing that film reminded me of my love of history. So often, people either reminisce about “the good ol’ days” or blast the past errors. This post is meant to be a grateful reminder for events that made life safer, richer, and better today.
More people should apologize, and more people should accept apologies when sincerely made. – Greg LeMond
Many times, people around us are frustrating. They refuse to help out at work, say that joke that you hate, or act like you are stupid. These instances are annoying and hurtful.
Lashing out in anger can seem to be the only way that people will respond. If you yell loud enough or whine endlessly, someone is sure to take notice. But how will that impact your relationship? What kind of person does that build you up to be?
Holidays are a festive time of year. Decorations deck halls, choirs sing merrily, gifts pile up under trees, and store clerks beam as people bustle about the store. Christmas pretty much equals joy, right?
Well, that is what we are pressured to think. However, for many people especially those with depression, this time of year can be very saddening and frightening. Christmas lights blink overwhelmingly, choirs are filled with people who might judge, gifts lack love, and store clerks are probably wanting to strangle customers while faking a smile.
How can we find peace and joy during this season without faking?